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Don’t

Posted on June 17, 2015 by Thomas Kevin Dolan Coaching

“Don’t even think about playing around the river. You’ll slip in and drown.” This order, bellowed by my Mom, topped The 10 Commandment list of my catholic childhood. Drummed out of me was the notion of trying to take risks. … Continue reading →

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Fag

Posted on November 27, 2013 by Thomas Kevin Dolan Coaching

“Please don’t use that word, I hate it!” yelled my Mom as I playfully told her I was her little fag. I felt shame, fear, and enormously unsafe. What was confusing for me was that this is how I felt … Continue reading →

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Moms Always Know

Posted on May 13, 2011 by Thomas Kevin Dolan Coaching

“Sooner or later you and Wendy will have to start acting like husband and wife,” shared my mother-in-law, Lyn, sometime in 1987. Those words, at the time, terrorized me. Just recently my Accountability Partner, Mary Bryan, asked, “Why did you … Continue reading →

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I Promise

Posted on May 4, 2011 by Thomas Kevin Dolan Coaching

“Good-bye Son” were the last words I heard as I watched Dad’s casket being lowered into the grave. With my dearest friend Jeffry sitting beside me in the rental car, I said, “Good-bye Dad.” Jeffry and I drove out of the cemetery … Continue reading →

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His Last Words

Posted on April 6, 2011 by Thomas Kevin Dolan Coaching

I stared at him while he prepared Easter dinner in Mom’s kitchen in 1989, remembering how much he scared me. Suddenly I found myself standing in front of him saying, “I forgive you.” My brother Jim, the youngest of the … Continue reading →

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